I love this saying, ORDER DISORDER REORDER, rather than a midlife crisis or some western tinged psychological description. I take no credit for this viewpoint only inspiration. It came from an author, speaker and Jesuit by the name of Richard Rohr and the book “Falling Upward.”
While life is far more complicated, distilling it into three simple words is truly amazing. Allowing room for all of us to have our own stories and experiences in the order phase. We hold on for as long as possible keeping things in order until something comes along to disrupt that order. This can be in the form of illness, divorce, death, but usually along the darker side of life.
This shakes your order to the core causing disorder and reminding us that life is change and we cannot hold on forever or we risk an internal death. This internal death is something like a defeat. Giving up and unwilling to change thus settling in for the long haul until the physical death.
If we do let go, allow the process of disorder to occur and dive into our own personal abyss, we get the chance to confront those shadows and issues that we kept at bay by maintaining order. On the other side, what awaits is change, marvelous change as we take risks and dive into a divine abyss. Here is where we get a chance to reorder our life in a completely and meaningful way knowing full well that it is finite. The result is a prioritization of what really matters, letting go of what doesn’t and so that we can enjoy the richness of the simple things that life has to offer.
Many, dare I say most do not go through all three of these phases. Sadly many hold on to the order well into the disorder chapter of life, usually around middle age. Or some I hear do not even get a chance to experience order because in this day and age life is more or less in disarray. So even in the order phase of life it feels chaotic and in disorder.
I do wonder what are the implications of living a life of constant disorder? If that is all you know then how do you get to reorder if one has never experienced order in the first place? Does one just accept this fact and remain in the place of disorder? I don’t think so.
What I can say is speaking from experience having gone through all three stages, while it was difficult and painful being on the other side there is nothing quite like it.
Simple and free!